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When I was a teenager my family went to the Grand Canyon, truly it was an amazing sight, I’ve never forgotten it. If you’ve been there you know exactly what that feels like, if you haven’t been there, it’s worth the trip, and you’ll never forget the beauty of the sunsets on the rocks, or the sunrise colors; it is beyond description. But that was when I was a

Majestic Colors of the Grand Canyon

teenager, back in those times it seemed to me to be one thing, today, when someone shows me a picture of the Grand Canyon my mind does many different things. For openers, it is now easy for me to see that what we consider to be a long time, is no time at all; when as a teenager someone asked me what I thought was going to be my life work, I really had no idea but said something like “well the law seems like a good thing to get into.” Any answer would do, because the truth, well, it sounded lame? Just as now when a year goes bye, it seems like it was only a month, and now my life work is, well; work- and the Grand Canyon; it took way beyond forever to get done, because, it’s still getting done…right there in front of our eyes. Ever had a business idea that didn’t seem like it was the right time? Ever have a business that seemed like it was going too slow?

Do not ignore the story of what it means to trade off your soul cheaply; it’s a famous story, retold so many times, from “The Count of Monte Cristo,” to more modern approaches, such as Nicholas Sparks, “The Last Song,” the idea is not hard to grasp, the relationship that is one sided, and the big side of the wishbone, isn’t on your side!  Sure it’s easy to say that we’re going to be big, we’re going to walk away, we’re going to do the “right thing,” only when you come to the point of decision, where it counts, if you are like me, your heart gets in the way, and you run the danger of making a lousy trade and cheapening your own worth.

Truth be told we aren’t people who like solitude, some solitude is good, but a lot of solitude tends to wear us and mold us, and unless it is self imposed; such as the poet Thoreau; it can end, badly.  This means that we form relationships on a constant basis, most of them, good, wholesome, well intentioned.  Many of them deep, meaningful, heartfelt and important, life focusing and life changing relationships.  We form relationships around portions of our lives, such as work and enterprise.  We form relationships based on hobbies and fun, folks who do sports together, or clubs which read and paint together.  We form relationships and we believe that it is a higher form of behavior than animalistic herding?  Truth be told, we aren’t very singular folks for the most part, we form relationships.

The soulfulness in such relationships is often ignored; which is unfortunate because even if there is no higher design than the mental exercise of good social psychology under the guise of hoping for better days ahead, the soulful considerations which are spelled out in so many great religious teachings are of worth and value to guide a person in soulfulness of relationships.  It is one of the unfortunate curses of our modern times that we don’t take soul in man seriously, and that at the same time we reject the notion that there might be something to the deeper choices of the soul, something which might be comprehended were we to open our eyes and choose to see clearly that it is important not to ignore soulfulness in relationships.

The crux of the issue is really gambling with your future by risking your heart in a soulful search for perfection in relationships; while the truth is, it isn’t possible.  Consider that were a person perfect, which none are, they would be able to satisfy every single demand of your soul; think about that one, because at that point, you’d find that your soul was full, but it would be a pretty safe bet, theirs wouldn’t be?  On the other hand consider the imperfections of those who you form relationships with and how the quirky nature of who they are is often the most fun aspects of why we want to associate with them?  As a lifelong rooter for the underdog it is my pleasure to choose to associate with those who are battling long odds.  My gamble is that they will win and my heart felt relationship will be well placed?

There is a hard truth to selfishness in gambling with relationships that is often soulfully renounced as unworthy of consideration, it is this; those who you grow the closest to  are the very ones who will have the ability to make you feel hurt.  If you do not care that deeply for the other person, then they have a very limited ability to put your heart in a state of hurt; so, little is at risk.  Gambling under such conditions is hardly a gamble at all, you aren’t risking much, and conversely, you won’t have much to win, or much to lose.  But when you put your heart out there and it gets stomped on, that, hurts; and that hurt, which feels like a big empty hole in your soul, that hurt, doesn’t go away easy and isn’t easily dealt with.  This is the hard truth to gambling with your heart, you may not come out with a winning hand, and so, my sense is, if you are going to gamble this way, be prepared for that.

Why would anyone deliberately hurt another?  This is, again, a classic question, it is certain that there are people who do hurt other people, sometimes, it’s without intent; the husband who forgets an important date to the wife; and if such hurts are not often repeated, a person can accept them as being inadvertent.  But when a person continues to forget important but small details, things which would be important to the other person, then the question must be asked, isn’t this deliberate?  From such a relationship it is very difficult to enlarge a meaningful and loving growth, one of the people in that relationship doesn’t matter, and if that person is you, then you’d better get yourself into another place, it’s not likely to change.  Those who are hurtful to others by inconsideration and dismissive behavior, do so, while justifying their own behavior as being correct, which means that you will likely never matter to them as much as they matter to you.  Such a situation is virtually beyond redemption, and if you are interested in maintaining your own worth as a person then perhaps you can curtail or modify the relational standing to protect your heart?  If you can’t, if that’s not possible then you may find yourself in a situation that is intolerable, at that point, it may make sense to choose the road, over the pain?

So we come to the age old two way street of love, knowing full well you may get hurt if you risk your heart, you know also you will remain lonely if you don’t.  In defense of the ones who have caused heart hurt in my life, the German Friedrich Nietzsche said “that which does not kill me, only makes me stronger.”

What if there were an enormous Christmas secret that was knowable, you could find it out, and it would be wonderful when you did, and you weren’t aware of it? That would be some secret wouldn’t it? You might not like somebody who knew something that would be good for you and chose not to share it, so that they kept it a secret, would you? Ever play a game of hide and go seek, and the other players all got together and left you hiding there? After a while you got suspicious and came “all-e-all-e ins that’s free.” and there wasn’t anybody there? Well this isn’t a secret like that, rather this is more like a fly that is on the wall of the Grand Canyon; you would need to know specifically which rock outcrop that fly was on, to the inch, in order to set your scope up to find it, wouldn’t you? This Christmas secret is going to be revealed to you, and so, in this brief writing that’s what we’re going to get into, the “how do I,” find this Christmas secret?

First we’ll talk about Christmas just a bit, because it is so important, before it happens, as it happens, and after it happens. Then we’ll talk about, in the next paragraphs, the Christmas secret and how you can find it before Christmas, during Christmas, and we hope, after Christmas, so let’s go?

Before Christmas happens things begin to change, in different cultures the world over, people begin to adjust to the idea that something really “neat,” really wonderful in terms of a holiday, is going to happen. Christmas is a world sized holiday, by the way, which, while celebrated differently, by style, takes place on the same day, December the 25^th. For some it’s just a recognition that the rest of the planet sees this day as significant; for most of those countries, however, it is the celebration of the birth of Jesus the Christ. It’s becoming, in America, and in many other countries, unpopular to state it so, which does not make much sense, given that all that Jesus ever did, no matter what else you may think, all He ever did was good for everybody! So in that He was so unlike so many other people, maybe that is why they have chosen to reject celebrating His birthday? But actually, my sense is that good people everywhere know that Jesus the Christ is real, was a real baby, actually lived here on earth, and really did do nothing but good the whole time He was here. If there’s a problem with Jesus the Christ, it’s probably not about Him at all, but about the people who say they know Him; but act like they don’t. People who are supposed to be loving and kind, but sometimes have a very odd way of showing it? Maybe if they weren’t like they are, people would be happier about celebrating their King’s birth? I don’t know, all I know for sure about Christmas is, it does change the world, each year before it gets here, the world gets ready for it, and if you are looking for Christmas, you might find it in that fact?

When Christmas day shines out, my heart rejoices, with so many other hearts, because it is the day in which Jesus the Christ, was born. Historically, maybe not, history is good to study, my preference is to believe that history is kept in the humans heart who knows love, and this day celebrates the birth of the Man who taught love, lived love; and is love. That to me is what Christmas is all about, but it really happens that morning because the night before we have a family tradition, which began when we were extremely poor, a year where we lost just about everything, and even our families health wasn’t good. That year both of us, the wife and I, were trying to think of something that we could do which would be good; we needed something good to take place, those were hard times. So I’d seen this clip of a movie called “A Christmas Carol.” several great actors who have since died, George C. Scott and Edward Woodward, to name a couple; were in it; it is an incredible movie, if you don’t have it, it’s worth the $5.00 it might cost to get it today. Anyway, in our state of down, somehow this movie seemed from the clip to be good, so my suggestion was, “hey, let’s watch it.” She agreed and so was begun the Christmas tradition of watching “A Christmas Carol,” by Charles Dickens. If I had a wish to be granted, like they do at the TED meeting each year, I wish every wealthy greedy world sized corporate pirate leader, who believed they had no need of Christmas, would get to watch this with us.

After Christmas things aren’t the same. Children who had hoped that Santa Clause, or, Saint Nicholas, Shengdan Laoren of Chinese name, JuiTomten of Sweden or others, can be found smiling. In fact this website: http://www.lone-star.net/mall/main-areas/santafaq.htm seems to be a pretty good one, for checking out Santa’s name, but back to the hoping, smiling, children; they are enjoying what Santa has left. Parents who have actually listened to their children and each other (these would be the 50 or so percent who aren’t getting divorced) are smiling inside, just a little, and that “just a little,” may be the about the only smile they get for a while. Things aren’t the same and that is certainly hard to dispute when such a large scale holiday takes place, Christmas doesn’t leave things the same, so if you are looking for a clue about the Christmas secret, that’s a huge one, things after Christmas change.

We’ve spent just a little time together about before, during and after Christmas itself, because nothing is like it, as a holiday, I don’t know one that world wide, has it’s power? New Year’s is celebrated world wide, but it doesn’t have the significance of Christmas and the secret which we are going to discuss, may be a fundamental aspect of why?

Now let’s go into the Christmas secret, because it can be found before Christmas, let me tell you how. You will need to find a quiet place, where you won’t be disturbed for about five minutes; this is going to be tough on you, so you will really have to want to know the secret, because you will need to find a quiet place for five minutes! Here you do nothing, shut off the cell phone and sit – still. Just sit still, for five whole minutes. While you are there ask your heart how many more hurts it can take before it breaks enough to realize that the hurt that you suffer must tell you something about your ability to take hurt? Ask your heart then, if your hurts are worse than the mother who watched her baby die yesterday; because it couldn’t get water. Water- not food, not medicine, WATER- now, ask your heart if you really understand what hurting is? If you will listen to your heart and be honest, you’ll realize that Dickens’s was right, and in the eyes of God “these may be of more importance than you ever will be;” and, we, you and I, and everyone, are letting it happen. It’ll be an interesting five minutes if you do it; and remain true to your heart, I guarantee it will affect how you look at suffering.

The Christmas secret however, is also to be found, by you, right there in the midst of the great times of great joy; you see, we need those, oh we desperately need them, here is why. When you are down, and those times will happen, even when you compare the depth of your down to the greater suffering of someone else; you need to be able to think about good Christmases and good times- its a way of keeping your balance with reality. The Christmas secret, begins in the persons heart, and so, for some, sadly, it’s gonna remain a secret, their heart, is, unfortunately, only a muscle that pumps blood; and that, is, one of the saddest realities of this world. The Christmas secret might have something to do with, changing that; if it is possible to change that heart with little feeling, to one that feels, the Christmas secret might bring it about.

After Christmas if your heart cannot change, the Christmas secret will help you in ways that you might not believe were possible, but all the time were. A very close personal friend who let other things get between us; realized, not too long ago, that “we don’t talk like we used to.” While I almost said, “
no duh,” I stopped my mouth, stayed quiet (like in the car), and listened, because what they said next was something that if your searching for the Christmas secret, will help you, they said, “so every once in a while, let’s just call each other, think we can do that?” You know I really do think we can, and somewhere I hear Charles Dickens agreeing with others “they’re getting close to finding the Christmas secret aren’t they?” What do you think the others say back to them about us?

You may have heard of the 80/20 rule- it gained popularity
some years back when Stephen R. Covey wrote his masterwork
“7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” mentioning the way
that this works out. 20% of the people are the ones who
generate growth, possess wealth, and basically are in charge,
the 80% are the observing grumbling sideline type who aren’t.
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In the mix also is this little tidbit basket, behind every person
who generates something extremely wise and observant, like our buddy
Pareto (the author of the study) the statistician; we can all learn
from the 2 of 10 times that a tidbit comes out, such as this from
the wonderful work by Jack Canfield – “Success Principles”:
“The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery
that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of
their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”
-William James Harvard psychologist (Canfield- pg. 187)

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